OK so some of you guys know me some dont.
I have an issue where I occasionally binge drink to the max.
I really would like any advice you guys may have to help me to stop this.
When i drink i dont know when to stop, I end up in a mess and i usually embarras myself and those around me.
Then i spend the next week really depressed and ashamed.
I think tea total is the answer, has anyone got any experience of this. Thanks
About 5 years ago I was the same. Me and a mate use to get very messy 3 nights over the weekend every week. In the week I use to hit the wine. My Mrs had a big part to play in me stopping. Now I just drink 0% beer unless we're going out (which is very rare). I like the fact I can drive whatever time I want over a weekend without risking my license. I think it's just a case of stopping and finding an alternative. Try your GP if you feel you need to but they will just give you a phone number. I don't miss it at all.
If you are out drinking you may find it best to find someone you know isnt too fussed about getting wasted and drinking along with them so it will keep your pace down. Or Sy's advice is probably better.
I stopped drinking stella as it took me too a bad placeswitched too Coors now and it sits alot better with me
Originally Posted by Kenobi
Yes mate i do, i was a serious drinker 10 years ago, i was in the pub every night right after work, weekends i didn't leave at all sometimes, embarassed myself all the time (although i didn't really give a toss at the time), lost some nice women as well, got into lots of fights/trouble....
In the end i stopped (nearly killed me as i went cold turkey & was very ill)
I haven't had a drink in 10 years now, have my own business, wife, 2 kids & another on the way, nice stuff around me & i don't (often) make a cock of myself...
Give up is the only thing you can do, it's not easy unless YOU want to, & although i haven't touched a drop i know i could quite easily get back into it. The whole pub scene/socialising thing will be hard at 1st, i didn't go down the pub for a long time & when i do now i find it hectic or boring TBH, i can see why people drink. lol.
Get yourself a hobby to take up the spare time, it helps me
I have an addictive personality though which doesn't help
If you can't drink in moderation then you need to try to give up
Good luck mate
Steve
Yes tea total has to be the answer. I'm sure i can do it. I pray I can do it.
You can mate! just sink all your disposable income on your gtt extra project!
that way you cant drink! you could try petrol or meths but you will go blind! iv seen it happen
If you are a bit depressed it may be a release for you... not in a good way obviously though...
You need to find something else to fill the time at 1st or see if you can go out & either drink soft drinks or 0% beer (i can't do this as it reminds me of normal beer & i get anxious)
Good luck dude
You're the only one in control of this, as with everything in life. You have a child don't you? To me, that should be more than enough to sort yourself out
Thanks mate. I honestly reckon I may need to go into hiding, ie spend all my time infront of the telly lol. That way there just no need to think about beer or going out.
I found I just gave up. Don't even think about it now. Something just clicks I guess. But it isn't easy. 10 years ago I lost my license,Gt Turbo,Girlfriend,home and a load of mates. Even that didn't stop me. I didn't try mind you. Maybe it's growing up or something but it'll just happen. Good luck mate.
Indeed I have a large family. I dont often drink and when I do I kinda dissapear like. So i think in some way I know i dont want my girls to see me drunk. Its all very irresponsible and I believe I have come to the end of the drinking line now.
I promised my eldest daughter that i would stay with her and not drink again. I believe that promise will be kept. She was upset when she had found out i had kicked my car windscreen out. She told me if i continue to be naughty im not going to her birthday party. Good on her.
I found that only taken a little money out and not taking my card to withdraw money always helped. Slowly slowed down my drinking. Spent two years drinking 6 days a week whilst at uni, most days starting at 11 in the morning going onto 2-3 in the morning. Most of my student loan went to, only saving thing was that alcohol was cheap, guess that didn't help my situation with the amount I used to drink. Now I just drink at the weekends when I have money. Have lots of renaults so most of the time I cant even go out drinking as I like spending money on those.
never been a heavy drinker, but what ever you decide and go about doing i wish you the best of luck
I don't generally drink during the week but I usually do at the weekends and I go all out on it, sometimes I have a really good night, sometimes I am a jibbering mess and a total tw@t! I actually had a whole month off drinking and it wasn't too bad, although my mates, brother etc... kept on egging me to come out and giving me stick (in a good way), but I ignored them and kept off it, no reason for it all, I just wanted to try it! I must admit that I felt great for that whole month and I wasn't bored at all come the weekends, just stayed in and watched some good telly and played around on the computer. I do find though that a lot of how you behave when out drinking depends on what you drink! I am useless on Stella and most premium lager's, re Calsberg Export etc... If I stick to cooking lager (normal Carlsberg) I don't act like such a tit! Same with spirits, if I stick to JD all night I am fine, as soon as I mix it up that's when things go wrong!
I think that giving up booze all together is a tough commitment to make but if you can control your binge drinking and stick to what you know then you can have the best of both worlds.
One of the probles is i dont know when to stop. I think a total ban is what i need.
Kenobi mate, it's always best to stop before it's too late, here is a short story for you:
I used to be a national record holder at pole vaulting in my country when I was a teenager, one night I had a bit of too much and crashed my car into a tree, dislocated my hip and nearly got burned alive in that car. That made me stop, even though I consider myself lucky surviving that accident I miss those days of being such a succesful athlete.
now that I have a son I can't even drive fast let alone drinking and driving.
best of luck matey, remember it's all in your head.
i never used to be a big drinker, but when i did i used to get totally trashed. usually make an idiot of myself, feel rough the next day and used to spend time wishing i hadnt spent so much.
i gave up binging in 2000, and stuck to the occasional alcopop.
since 2006 i've never touched a drop.
one of the best things i've ever done.
if you need incentive, put the money you would have spent into a large glass bottle for your kids.
you might need a few bottles....
I will Sparkie mate, Sound advice that is. Ilker your so right, i have a lot to lose. best stop now for good.
I only drink the good stuff so £70 has been thrown away. Champagne and Bushmills now totally band. Shame i cant drink in moderation. nevermind. Goodbye cruel booze you will not be missed.
The most important thing is that YOU have recognised you have a problem and are prepared to deal with the situation, it hasn't taken the persuasion of someone else to get you to do it or some terrible incident to open your eyes to what you're doing to not only yourself but the ones around you that love you.
I've had a few beers in my timethere'll be club members on here that have seen me drink to excess on more than 1 occasion
all funny at the time but looking back it is quite embarrasing and i'm ashamed of myself. But, we all do crazy things and we can learn from our experiences. Drinking in moderation is definitely the key, you can enjoy a drink but know when enough is indeed enough.
What HAS changed my life in the last 5 months is counselling, it's totally changed the way i look at everything in my life and how i deal with things
What HAS changed my life in the last 5 months is counselling, it's totally changed the way i look at everything in my life and how i deal with things
Thats whats kept me from padded walls and worse things
It sounds crazy but i'd highly recommend it
I cant seem to talk about my problems very well. I can talk about them i just dont do a good job of it. I dont like to make excuses for my actions. if that makes sense.
remember me a few months back..... and you talk to me at the mo, big difference.
Remember im quoted as saying '' i was fed up of padded walls''
Ricardo has a point, and a good one.
It takes a big man to admit he has a problem, but an even bigger man to do something about rectifying it.
By addressing the situation (on here), you're already halfway there, and by the looks of things you're already well on the way to sorting the other half of the problem. Top darts
Ok so what would a counsellor say? lovey dovey hippy things?
I'm sure im supposed to feel upset and im supposed to erm well grieve. Its just the booze i dont want.
To quote Kirk " I need my pain"
It doesn't matter if you're not good with talking, Counsellors have a way of getting stuff out of you, it doesn't matter if you say it in a jumbled way as their job is to unscramble it...and your head.
I really hope that you can use your family as the best reason possible to try and sort things out. If you don't have confidence in yourself to drink in moderation, then just cut it out and like someone said, put that money in a little pot for your children. If they ever go through a hard time when they're older, give it to them and explain why it exists - it may help to teach them to try and keep their heads up high and work through things too, just like daddy did
To quote kirk.... thats the gayest thing you have ever said PERIOD!
No in a way its scary they connect with you and know you very quickly.. and what the have to say and offer is ways to look at the world in a different aspect. no the flat way you see it at the mo.
Play paper mario on the wii, that explains what i mean in the style of game play.
For example you look in the mirror, what you see is your self. but your looking at an object
You have lost me. Ok i take on board what you have said and i will look into it.
There's a reason why you drink, reasons for why things happen, you might find it's connected to something you never thought. Believe me they have ways of working things out, helping you out 1 session at a time.
I went to start with as i came to a point in my life where something had to be done, the flipside to a counsellor is you can just make an appointment when you're not feeling your best, things are on your mind and being with them just releases the weight of the world off your shoulders.
I went weekly to start with as i had a lot to deal with, now i go once a month, it's like an in depth chat about things on your mind with someone unbiased with a proffesional outlook.
How much is it?
I pay £30 for an hour, oh and for me the cost never came into it. I wanted to do this and no matter what it would take. Corny as it sounds it saved me
doesn't matter does it...you could pay for it out of the beer money you are saving...
Good call.doesn't matter does it...you could pay for it out of the beer money you are saving...
Small steps mate, what works for one won't necessarily work for everyone but i suspect you will already be feeling more confident, suprise you're already talking. What has to be the biggest incentive is what your little girl said, that would have broken my heart.
Good luck.
It nearly did. Ive decided to take her with me to Santa pod so you can all meet her. Shes totally brilliant.
I lost a few girlfriends to drink waking up in police cells fighting with bouncers etc, like said some where above first step to recovery is admiting you have a problem. I think the t total idea would be really hard to conquer especially if you mix with people who like a drink. If you drink lager of beer for example choose a weaker one have a soft drink every other beer or what ever. Also you need to work out why you feel the need to get totally **** faced
Posting Permissions
Reply With Quote