Cancer Takes Another Loved One

[Ricardo]

I know there are a few people on this forum that wont know my partner but i know there are a few that have met her. Marianna was my partner for just over 2 and a half years and came with me on some of the RTOC trips away, curry nights.

2 years ago she was diagnosed with cancer of the thyroid, she had to go though 2 lots of surgery and then a gruelling 6 weeks of radiotherapy. I won't go into detail what effects the radiotherapy had on her but she fought through for months after the effects.

She was given the all clear just before Christmas 2011. Obviously this was great news which gave us the Christmas we longed to enjoy, but the thought of cancer re emerging was always at the back of her mind.

3 months ago for about 3 weeks she couldnt shake off a cough so she went to the doctor who advised a chest X ray immediately.

Sadly, the news was not good, after more scans and biposies Marianna was diagnosed with incurable cancer. A mass had grown in the lung, worse to come was the life expectancy prognosis, she was given only a year to live.

At that moment we compiled a small bucket list, thinking, hoping we could tick them off. Marts wedding next September, Sangliers next June and a trip to Nurburgring were on that list. Her personal to do was a mini trip to Pompei, visit her brothers fishing lake in France, visit her other brother in Cornwall. We didnt think we were being unreasonable, she was given 12 months so why not do these things.

Well, after spending the last 2 weeks in hospital she took a massive turn for the worse after having her 1st cycle of chemotherapy.

Sadly, Marianna passed away yesterday. The fight with cancer for 2 years had finally taken her from us.

My life from now on will never be the same, all i have now are the treasured memories and photographs of our times together which includes the RTOC weekends away. I know some of you met her and will have memories of her in your own little way.

This picture was taken at the stop off point on the mad dash through the Ardenne, this was part of Sanglier 2012. We had just enough time to buy an ice cream, then carry on with the driving back to Florenville.

http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8350/8174693359_ee21913d1a_z.jpg (http://www.flickr.com/photos/64860664@N04/8174693359/)
French National Weekend June 2012 076 (http://www.flickr.com/photos/64860664@N04/8174693359/) by Ricard o1 (http://www.flickr.com/people/64860664@N04/), on Flickr

My birthday in July, Marianna treated me to a day in London, topped off with dinner at Jamie Olivers Barbecoa restaurant next to St Pauls

http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8350/8174692045_dedf311a15_z.jpg (http://www.flickr.com/photos/64860664@N04/8174692045/)
Olympic Torch & day in london on the Cable Car 058 (http://www.flickr.com/photos/64860664@N04/8174692045/) by Ricard o1 (http://www.flickr.com/people/64860664@N04/), on Flickr

She absolutely loved this Mini, a car she always wanted so she 'treated' herself. Coupled with her desire for speed i decided to book her an evening trackday at Brands Hatch. I'll admit after giving her the "look for the apex blah blah, watch your speed, it was me who ended up spinning!

http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8063/8174693889_e5a7f3a930_z.jpg (http://www.flickr.com/photos/64860664@N04/8174693889/)
brands 001 (http://www.flickr.com/photos/64860664@N04/8174693889/) by Ricard o1 (http://www.flickr.com/people/64860664@N04/), on Flickr

http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8484/8174867357_ce37ab3ca6_z.jpg (http://www.flickr.com/photos/64860664@N04/8174867357/)
brands 003 (http://www.flickr.com/photos/64860664@N04/8174867357/) by Ricard o1 (http://www.flickr.com/people/64860664@N04/), on Flickr

Live your life to the full everyday, don't have any regrets..... I wanted to post this on here as i know she was fond of the club members she met along the way

[JRP]

My thoughts are with you ric. So sorry mate.

[Matt@CodeRedMotorsports]

Rich, I'm so sorry to hear this. Marianna was lovely and will be greatly missed. Our thoughts are with you and the families. In the short time I knew her she was fantastic and very brave.
Matt.

[TNT ANDY]

Oh boy. Sorry to hear that Ricardo. There are no words apart from 'sorry.'

[James5]

Rich my thoughts are with you and the family.

[DLampitt]

Life can be so sad sorry to hear this sad news :(

[gtmatt]

Gutted mate really am I sorry its awful I never met her but my thoughts are with u all the way ,I am still grieving ,it's tuff I know here for a chat and advice stay strong it's hard I know Matt thinking of you mate

[JimGTT]

so sad to hear it. I never met her but to loose any loved one is hard. Lifes never the same, but cherish those memories.

Best wishes to you and your family

[Penfold aka The Dealer]

Rich, I am so sorry to hear this mate.

I feel for you my friend, if there is anything you need mate, let me know.

[The new Bill J]

Rich, I'm so so sorry to read this - Truly gutted for you :(

What a horrible, b4stard disease that is!

My thoughts are with you mate.

[boysie]

really sorry for you mate, may she rest in peace.

[car.crash]

Really sorry for your loss buddy. :cry:

[LiamR]

I dont know either of you but reading your post really choked me up.

I am so sorry for your loss.

[Tony Walker]

Really sorry for your loss.

[Nottswoody]

So sorry

[dangerous dave]

We all seem to be getting our own experience with this so I dont there's a person reading this hadn't felt this pain due to a loved one being taken..

Thoughts go out :(

[Lomo]

Im so so sorry Ricardo. Like Matt, I lost my Mum to this horrible disease 3 weeks ago and its difficult to come to terms with.

Be strong mate and as you probably already know, cherish the memories you have and realise the wonderful people you have around you and together you can all help each other.

Big love mate

Iain

[Junglist]

Sorry to hear this mate. She seemed like a really nice person when we met at Sangliers. Bad times :crap:.

[Shane P]

Very sorry for loss, wishing you all the strength in the world to help you cope. Be strong.

[djinuk]

really sorry to hear that dude. Somthing i think its important to remember situations like this.. so when your having a bad day, or row with the mrs, brother etc, you can think .. quickly it helps me re-priortise my life. Sorry again, thoughts are with you.

[Big Steve - Raider]

OMG! Gutted to hear this Ricardo, I'm certainly one of the people who got to know Marianna at Sangliers & other events.

I didn't know she was battling with the wretched disease and she always seemed so full of life!

Sarah & I are thinking of you.

[tubbyG]

sorry to hear such tragic news. my thoughts go out to you and your family

[Dave Reed]

Hi Rich,

I've only had the pleasure of meeting you once and your such a great guy, I'm so sorry about your loss mate...

Dave

[Alex]

My god that's dreadful, I'm so so sorry to hear that. Why does life have to be like this? I lost my mother 5 years ago to lung cancer.

Stay strong mate

[Matt Cole]

My condolences to you and the families involved.

[Andy M]

Such a shame mate.

Life deals some **** cards and this has to be the worse scenario for anyone.

Cherish the times you had together and her spirit will live in your memories for ever.

RIP.

[millie]

So sorry to hear Richard, it's brought a tear to my eye reading your post.Such a horrible disease. We will miss her greatly at the events especially during "wine o'clock"! I've loved spending time with her and getting to know her these past few years. A great woman with a great personality. My thoughts are with you and my heart goes out to you. Xxx

[Brizza]

Just caught this, really sorry to hear this and so sorry for your loss :(

[Mart]

Ricky, as per the phone call, we're so so sorry to hear Marianna has passed away. Totally lost for words, and tears in my eyes as I type this, so I'll leave it there.

Our love & deepest condolences to you & family.

[turbo ted]

Ricarrdo
Our hearts are broken hearing this news. Myself and Audrey met yourself and Marianna on the France trip this year, we were just saying how much she loved the trip and inparticular the 100mile "race" threw the countryside she was such a lovely lady.
Our deepest sympathies and prayers are with you.

Robbie & Audrey

[Danboi2]

Sorry to hear about this, thoughts are with you and the family.

[benj88]

Really sorry mate

[Ashy]

So sorry for your loss Ric, I've no idea what you must be going through right now, our thoughts are with you.

[LeeR5GTT]

New poster! (less than 10 posts)

so sorry for your loss Rich x

[kentraider]

so sorry to hear of ur tragic loss......heart gos out to you

[kentraider]

so sorry to hear of ur tragic loss......my heart gos out to you

[Nad-5GTT]

I cant imagine the pain you are going through, i dont know you but this sad news has brought a lump to my throat. Im sure in time you will slowly get to grips with what has happened and will treasure all the good times you shared together.

[westytce]

No words, just thoughts.

May yours grow fonder everytime you think of your happy years together.

[Moggy]

thoughts and love from up here matey

Moggy & N

[Slammed 66]

Sorry to hear that dude. Stay strong

Ross

[V Man]

Sorry to hear your very sad news. Thoughts to you and your families.

[Kris M]

Rikky, having known you two for a while now im really saddened and shocked by the news mate. Really lost for words tbh mate. You know RTOC is here for you if we can do anything at all to help just ask mate

[jesus in the seat of a 5]

ric....as everyone has said buddy , right here is all the support you need!!!!, so sorry to hear mate, both mine and sadie thoughts are with you my friend, stay strong and remember the good times over the bad. so feel for you bud!!!!!!

[chris]

So sorry mate i dont know you but my thoughts are with you rite now and i think your extremly brave i also believe you have done your partner proud all the best.chris

[Adam L]

Ric, I know what cancer does to lives. My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was 13, that was an odd experience. You never expect such a prominent figure in your life at such an age to be dealt that card, we went through hard times because of it.

I kept my mum but I thought I'd nearly lost her, so my heart goes out to you. If you want to chill in West London and have a drink, give me a shout:)

[Trevhib]

:(

[Duncan Grier]

:(:(:(

Sir so so sorry to read the above, we lost Sarah's 18months ago and is really hard

Thoughts with you all

Duncan

[g10far]

Sorry for your loss, stay strong.

[Blocky]

Sorry to hear this m8, such awful news :(:(:(

[Alan]

:cry::cry:

It doesn't matter we've never met. I feel for you

[Ricardo]

I'd just like to say a warm, heartfelt thank you to everyone who took the time to read my post and leave a comment. Although it was quite hard for me to type the post out, it was actually the easier option as I knew it would be too hard for me to pick up the phone and make that call to some of you. One person I did speak to this evening was Sukhi as I know he doesn't frequent these boards that often. He and Michelle met Marianna and I a few times.

Cancer is indeed a horrible disease, the way it can make someone go through the pain and suffering, no one deserves to be put through that ordeal.

[gttjames]

well worth a thread ricardo. Sounds like a horrible situation but one you two made the most off and glad you have some fond memories. Sorry to hear of your loss. I think most people can relate as cancer is a wide spread which affects alot of people. We have lost my uncle to cancer and that alone was a shock. Thoughts are with you.

[HendyR5]

Sorry to hear about your loss mate :cry:

[DaveMayGTT]

I have no words good enough. Sorry for your loss.

[5alldaway]

really sorry to hear this, but at least you know she has gone to a better place now

life carries on after this one and you will see her again

chin up

[Bigfoot]

I am so sorry to hear this, thoughts are with you & family

[Spooky]

:(

She was a caring, loving & thoughtful woman who would do anything for anyone.

She was always prepared to put herself out for everyone else.

People like her are a very rare breed and we're glad to have been able to call her our friend.

I know how fond she became of my little girl. That made Rics call last night that much harder to take.

We will miss her, we will also remember her fondly.

Lots of love,

Me, Michelle, Isobel

x

[T.K]

Was so, so sorry to read this.

Thoughts are with you mate.

[r5_scotty]

i tried to avoid reading this thread ,but its hard not to read about this kind of thing.

gutted for you champ. hope your ok:agree:

[Hoolio]

I have been pondering and looking for the right words for the last couple of days and have decided there really arn't any. You have my deepest sympathy. J

[RussellT]

Part of my job is to tell people they have cancer. A lot of the time you can be upbeat and hopeful about the outcome but other times you know its hopeless and just a matter of time. I have literally been in tears, when a child asks if they are going to die? you would have to be a heartless b'stard not to. People like Marianna are so unlucky and develop terrible illnesses through no fault of their own and then you have the smokers, who go out of their way to try and give themselves cancer.
Doctors are dangerous people best avoided and THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT AVOIDABLE CAUSE OF CANCER IS SMOKING.
We have lots of nicotine replacement products and even tablets that help you stop. If you smoke set a quit date, talk to your GP, get any help you can and be a NON SMOKER.
There is a neat APP called My Last Cigarette that keeps a running total of how much healthier you are and how much money you have saved.
If you wont do it for yourself do it for those close to you.

[Adey aka Ewok]

mate im so sorry for your loss, so sad when those who don't deserve to be taken are x

[Wallace]

I've been through cancer treatment myself, and am now watching my step mother slowly die due to cancer.

I don't know u, but I know the scenario and can understand how u must be feeling,and the helpless feelings u have experienced.

Best wishes to u,and hope u can remain strong:agree:

[5teve L]

So sorry to hear this Rich, I can only imagine how you must be feeling.
Thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

Steve

[Sam M]

Rich I have only just seen this, had no idea what she was battling through, I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

[THE MASTER]

mate i feel for you ... ive got that **** hanging over me . but im gonna remain strong and positive and beet it:burnrubber::burnrubber:

[Tony Walker]

mate i feel for you ... ive got that **** hanging over me . but im gonna remain strong and positive and beet it:burnrubber::burnrubber:

:agree: you've got a whole club of members behind you Col

[Ricardo]

mate i feel for you ... ive got that **** hanging over me . but im gonna remain strong and positive and beet it:burnrubber::burnrubber:

Good man, stay positive and believe it will happen. We are all here for you my friend

[Ricardo]

Just to say that the service was today, Marianna and I had conversations about how she'd like it to be and feel we gave her everything that she requested. It went absolutely just right, beautiful.

I know that she is in a better place, there is no more suffering for her. Time to hold onto those good memories, a time to try and go forward..... Rest In Peace

[TNT ANDY]

:agree: you've got a whole club of members behind you Col

here here:agree:

[jamie_clioGTT]

im so sorry to hear this, stay strong mate. my thoughts are with you and the rest of your family/s.

[AlexS]

Ricky, I don't get on here very much so please excuse my very late reply. So sorry to read this thread and my condolences.

You have PM mate.

[Ricardo]

Ricky, I don't get on here very much so please excuse my very late reply. So sorry to read this thread and my condolences.

You have PM mate.

Alex, I really, really appreciate you taking the time to send me a personal message. Your sincere and kind words mean so much to me

[6FOOT6]

Ricardo, i don't come on here much these days , but Im so sorry for your loss, Im typing this with tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat , Christ , thoughts are with you man.

Tom

[Mike GTT]

Sorry to hear of your loss Rich.

My thought are with you.